I have decades of experience being on the wrong end of a hybrid event or meeting. As Tim Stevens writes, "The hybrid approach to remote work can meet the needs of diverse teams of people, but too often those who sign in from afar can feel left out, absent from impromptu hallway discussions or outright ignored on Zoom calls." This article offers some suggestions on how to make the events work better, but it really is a challenge to convince people in the in-person room to treat online participants as real people (or even as a part of the meeting at all). People not using mics, tiny notes written on whiteboards, people talking over comments from remote people, informal breakout rooms with while remote participants wait - I've seen it all. My view: it's better to put everyone online than to try to mix modalities.